The Holiday Season Brings Families Together, But Sometimes It’s Still Hard to Communicate!
Family dynamics are exceedingly complicated and create undercurrents that affect everyone. As a family caregiver, you might find that communicating with some of your other family members feels way more difficult than it should be. You might find this to be true at family gatherings or simply when you call to ask for a little bit of help.
Old Tapes Play
Other family members may know you in a different scenario altogether and not as someone who is in charge of everything. This can warp their view of the current situation and make discussing what’s going on now extremely difficult. The best that you can hope for is to show them that you’re handling the situation the best that you can and that they can help or stand aside.
They Don’t See the Full Picture
You’re there all the time with your elderly family member because you’re the primary caregiver. Other family members, however, may only see a small snapshot of what goes on. This can mean that when you bring up the fact that you need help in the form of senior care providers, for example, they can accuse you of exaggerating. Without the knowledge that you have of the situation, they’re not able to come to the same conclusions.
They’re Experiencing Guilt
When someone isn’t doing all that they can or all that they want to do in a particular situation, that guilt can express itself in excessive criticism, angry comments, or just a generally negative attitude. This is difficult for you to deal with, but it’s not your problem.
They Just Don’t Get It
Some family members, no matter how much you educate them or attempt to bring them in, are never going to get it. They’re never going to understand your senior’s needs, what you do, or what caregiving entails. This is incredibly frustrating, but like the guilt, it’s not something that you can fix because you’re not causing the problem.
You may not be able to solve any or all of these concerns and you have to let that go. Unfortunately, how other people feel and react isn’t something that you can fix.
Home Care Can Help!
Sometimes taking a break (even if it’s only for a few hours) can really help clear the mind. Enlisting the help of a home care agency and their professional staff can help not only with giving the family caregiver a break but also with tips and hints on how to reach out to other family members. After all, your local home care professionals are experts in senior care issues, including communication challenges. Give it a try, you might just need a little rest and time for reflection.